Becoming an Adoptive Parent

Becoming an Adoptive Parent

Dealing With Attachment Issues And Reactive Attachment Disorder In Adopted Children

Brennan Robinson

Children might become stressed because of significant life changes, including trauma, major illnesses, death or loss of parents and new home environments. Sometimes, this stress results in attachment Issues,  and your children might develop reactive attachment disorders.

Clues of Reactive Attachment Disorder

From very young, children develop a profound attachment with the people who care for them.  A change of any of these caregivers, regardless of the caregivers' skillset, impacts the children's  development.

When children have attachment issues, they might have a hard time expressing themselves appropriately and might put up roadblocks to bonding. Other common problems that might present in children with attachment issues or reactive attachment disorder includes:

  • Anger problems, including throwing temper tantrums
  • Showing inappropriate affection to people outside the family
  • Refusing to bond with the caregiver
  • Disobedient and argumentative behavior

Set Up A Secure Environment For Your Children

You'll need to create an environment in which the child feels safe to trust you. Remember that your children have already experienced disappointments at an early age. Understand that this is a long process and will take time. As for any child, you'll need to set clear boundaries and let your children know what you expect from them. You also must set up rules for behavior. Finally, show your children that they can count on you by responding consistently in all situations.

Work With A Professional

Get support from a therapist trained in dealing with children plagued with reactive attachment disorder. The therapist can be an educational resource for you and can help you set up a secure environment for your children. The therapist might also work with your family and with the children individually.

Treatment plans might include meetings with your children while you watch and play therapy, which teaches your children how to interact with their peers. The therapist might also suggest parenting skills classes that focus on reactive attachment disorder in children.

Join a Support Group

Taking care of a child with attachment issues or reactive attachment disorder can be overwhelming. And, like your children, you'll need time to adjust. Spend time with a parent support group. These groups can help you find resources, and you can exchange ideas with other families. You also can expect to receive encouragement from other families and group leaders and mentoring from professionals.

Take Time For Yourself

Remember to take time to rejuvenate. Set aside time to socialize with friends and reconnect with your spouse. Just as you must have family time, you also need time for just you. Do things that you enjoy that pamper and reenergize you. You'll be better prepared to give your children the love and support they need if you take care of yourself.

Remember to contact a trusted a related site for licensed adoption agency for further advice. 


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About Me
Becoming an Adoptive Parent

After a few years of marriage, my husband and I decided to open our home to a child who needed a family. Our journey included learning about the adoption process, what goes into matching parents with children, and even how relationship counseling can help improve the chances of building a solid family unit. It did take some time, but at last we were matched with two wonderful children. One was a newborn while the other was six years old and had spent time in more than one foster home along the way. Each child brought specific challenges, but also gave us a joy that we had never known before. If you are thinking of becoming an adoptive parent, understand that it can take time. Read on and I'll share what things that you need to know in order to make your own journey.